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Are you experiencing issues like these?
- Repetitive arguments that seem to solve nothing
- Inability to resolve issues
- Feeling that as a couple you have drifted apart
- The discovery of an affair
- Wanting to understand why a relationship went wrong for you
- Loss of desire for sex or problems when having sex
- Your partner is using pornography in a way that worries you
- The effects of sexual abuse
Then I can help. I am a highly qualified counsellor and psychosexual therapist with 20 years experience.
You may find it helpful to have an initial session with me to explore how counselling and sex therapy might help you. I can normally offer a first appointment quickly including Saturdays. I also offer telephone counselling
More information on the types of counselling I provide can be found further down the page, for times and prices please see counselling services.
If you are interested in booking a session or have a question or concern, then please contact me.
What do I offer?
You may well be unsure about whether counselling or sex therapy is what you need and I can assess this when we meet and advise you on the best way forward.
Relationship and personal counselling.
If you are experiencing problems in your relationship or perhaps in a relationship which has ended then relationship counselling is the appropriate approach.
I can also assist with issues such as bereavement and loss. If relationship problems are affecting your sex life then counselling is probably more appropriate.
Relationship counselling will have a focus and we will always have an idea of what we are trying to achieve. My role is to help you explore issues, to help you put together an explanation of why problems have arisen and to help you negotiate changes to improve your relationship in the future.
Psychosexual therapy.
Many sexual problems are psychological in origin and this is what psychosexual therapy deals with. If your relationship is essentially sound but it is suffering because of sexual problems then psychosexual therapy – often called sex therapy – is more appropriate.
Having explored the problems with you I will design a personalised therapy programme for you including exercises for you to do at home. We will meet regularly to discuss your progress and to deal with any issues that arise.
Theoretical Approaches.
It is not necessary for you to know or understand the techniques and theoretical approaches I use in order to benefit from them but I am happy to explain if you wish.
In summary, for those who are interested, primarily I use psychodynamic counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and solution focussed brief therapy; I choose techniques appropriate to the issues you want to tackle. The terms counselling and psychotherapy are largely interchangeable.
What does counselling and therapy involve?
The normal pattern for delivering counselling is weekly sessions of one hour. You may be asked to do some work at home such as writing lists or practising communication skills. The sessions will involve exploring issues and ideas.
Psychosexual therapy also usually includes a weekly session although the full hour may not always be necessary. In addition you should allow at least two hours a week to do therapy tasks.
The weekly session with me is your opportunity to raise concerns and seek clarification of issues which have arisen from the tasks. Later in therapy it may not be necessary to meet on a weekly basis.
I can be flexible to meet your needs but I balance this against what is likely to be most effective for you.
